Life

Life is a precious gift

Life is the most beautiful blessing

Life is the best miracle we witness

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Then why does it feel like a prison?! You get an illness – can’t do what you want, eat what you want. If you get something you want, something else is taken from you. You have to follow the circle of birth > education > job > marriage > kids > grandkids > death. You have to always act according to society. Live on medicines. Your life is extended because of medicines. You’re dependent on these so called tablets which is just powder compressed in a tiny whatever shape. Your whole childhood life is dictated by others. By the time you reach the age where you get to do what you want, either society tells you what to do or these so called medicines do.

And the pain – Heartbreak, pain of losing a loved one, betrayals, people say it gets easier. It never does. Every single one of those, at some intervals, surfaces, taking turns, no matter how hard you try to bury it down.

And the jealousy – I will never understand why people get jealous of others. Just because someone has what you want, doesn’t mean they have what they want. And even if they have what they want, doesn’t mean their life is easy. Why do people compare their struggles with others and act as if they’re the only ones suffering. I’ve seen people with great struggles live life as though nothing is wrong and I’ve seen those who’ll constantly complain about the smallest things.

Every time we celebrate new year, we wish that the next year will be better than the previous one. It never is. It only gets worse. Sometimes, it gets really worse really fast. And it’s only going to keep getting worse

Life is not a blessing

It is a continuous struggle

Continuous…………………….

The conclusion for this? I’m trying to find that out for myself too.

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Nice Vs. Smart

Being nice doesn’t mean anything in this world.

I was nice to people who weren’t nice to me in return.

I had to make an effort to stay in their lives while accepting them wholly for who they were.

They pointed out my small mistakes when I ignored their huge ones.

Then I decided I had enough and stopped making an effort and the inevitable happened. They’re not in my life anymore.

I think the lesson here is that, we need to be nice to people who deserve it. Not everyone.

You don’t only need to be nice, you need to be smart.

You need to find those people who appreciate you.

You also need to find people who are nice to you in return.

Help everyone but don’t share with everyone.

Care for all but also be a little selfish.

Make yourself a priority.

Don’t trust people’s words. Look at their actions.

Open your eyes. Don’t trust people blindly.

Don’t doubt always, but when your gut tells something is fishy, something is fishy.

Surround yourself with positive people.

Value those who value you.

And lastly, learn to be happy, learn to make yourself smile !!! 🙂

How do you define yourself?

This is a small 13 minutes youtube video and once i saw it, I knew I had to share it.
A MUST WATCH VIDEO !!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c62Aqdlzvqk

Everyone called her the World’s ugliest woman. But she didn’t let that define her. She had no control over what she looked like on the outside but she had every control over how she wanted to be on the inside and she built a very beautiful attitude. Her thoughts are very inspiring and this is a motivation to every person who face negative and stupid people in their lives who thinks it’s fun to just come ahead and say whatever they want about other people’s lives.

She teaches us no matter how bad any situation, if you want, you and only you can turn it around by changing your attitude and perspective. How you choose to take it, is in your hands.

To all the heartbroken girls out there: Some things to help you through a bad breakup.

Heartbroken? Bad breakup? Dumped? Feel cheated on?
Afraid to move on? Don’t know what to do?

You know what to do. At this point, you know what’s right, what’s wrong, what you should do and what you shouldn’t. But you’re heart is confused and your brain can’t think because of the pain your heart is trying to reject. So, even though you would know what exactly to say if someone else is going through this, when you’re the one going through, you become blind.
So I’m gonna help you.
These are some of the things that you should follow after a breakup.

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I have heard people time and again say, “how can I forget him? I love him”. Yes I get that. But if you have to move on, you have to start trying to forget the guy. When you say, ‘how can I forget him’ you are not even trying, and when you dont try, you keep holding on to him and the memories which will not allow you to move on. Granted, it’s not easy for girls to let go of anything emotionally, but it’s not always like that for guys. So when you still hold onto him while he’s trying to move on, it hurts you, but what’s over is over. Him moving on or not is not gonna change the situation. There comes a point where you HAVE to let go. Eventually it won’t be easy but it will get easier.

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Some, even after break up, hold on to memories of him, so that, you can, in that heartbreak, attempt for a few seconds to live in that time when you were happy. That might work for a while but in the long run it will make it more difficult for you to move on. Let all that stuff go. Looking at his gifts, cards, photos, is fine for a while, but it’s nothing but temporary happiness. Following his statuses in facebook or any other social media, noticing he’s happy and he’s moved on, will just crush your heart. It will make you feel that he’s moved on even though you haven’t and he doesn’t care when you still do. All those facts don’t matter. It won’t change the fact that it’s over between you too. The sooner you realize that the better.

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It’s obvious that you’ll miss him. We’re not robots, for God’s sakes. But always always telling your friends that you miss him might not be the best idea. Friends are ready to help you in whatever way they can, but instead of going with their jokes and with their stories if always you’re thinking about him and missing him you’re friends may not always take it the best way. Ofcourse they know you miss him and they’ll be worried about you if you don’t say anothing to them so it’s okay to let them know occasionally that you so miss him, but, other times, try to go on with what they’re doing, get in on the fun, laugh with them, mix in, share activities, do stuff with them. That’s what will help you move on, rather than, sitting around all day, always depressed. If you’re friends attempt to make you smile, appreciate their efforts. They’re not being insensitive, they just want to help you take they guy off your mind atleast when you’re around them.

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Don’t try to act cool and agree to being friends with the guy. If you can’t emotionally do it, just tell him. It will save a lot of pain which you will get afterwards otherwise. Some girls can really manage it, in the case they were friends with they guy before or they are emotionally okay with the break up and have really admitted the fact they can’t be in a relationship due to certain reasons and can still enjoy each other’s company as friends. If you really wanna try being friends but it doesn’t work out and ends up giving you pain, tell the guy that you need to maintain distance instead of being quiet and hoping the pain gets easier in the later stages. It won’t and it never will. You’re fooling yourself. You’re trying too hard to be strong. But sometimes, being strong is letting go and saying that you need to maintain that distance.

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Just because it’s been a bad breakup and you’re hurt doesn’t mean you can go hurt other people. Also doesn’t mean you can start bad habits or go drinking to take away the pain. It may be a temporary solution and you may really feel like feeling anything other than the pain is better, it’s wrong. The pain will come back if you keep avoiding it. Also, DON’T try getting back together with your ex or getting in a relationship with a someone you barely know. An ex is an ex for a reason. It didn’t work out in the past and it may never work out. And the guy you barely know, even if he is a good guy, he’s just rebound for you. Getting in a relationship when you’re emotionally disturbed is never a good idea. You may just be using him to move on and end up hurting his feelings instead. If you really think you may grow to love the guy, or if you think it will work out with your ex or you know you’re ready to enter into a strong and sound relationship, just think twice and make sure you’re emotionally stable.

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You are not alone. Always have a friend to share things with. You may have to fake a smile to the world but you don’t have to do that with your friends. Don’t close yourself off. If you’re friends are not being supportive, then you have got to find the one that will. It’s not needy to ask for help, some advice, some motivational words to move on. The people who truly love you, won’t mind at all. If there IS no one that will come help you because they’re not familiar with the situation, there’s always the internet. Write your feelings down somewhere and someone will come to help. You can even google image search ‘move on’ quotes, ‘heartbreak’ quotes. It might help more that you think

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Enjoy family occasions, be excited for everyone’s birthday celebrations, go shopping, go do silly things with your friends, do what you love and be happy. Just because your relationship is over, doesn’t mean everything else is. It may take a while but when you get a chance to do fun things and be happy and get excited and LIVE, just do it. Don’t wait for tomorrow to be happy. Happiness is today. And happiness refuses to be delayed.

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No matter what you’re facing right now things are going to get better. The good times are temporary so are the bad times. This was the wrong guy, but eventually you’re gonna find the right guy, and you’re going to be happy. But this doesn’t mean you need a guy to be happy. That’s not the way it works. Happiness depends on you. You need to move on and close the chapter that’s not going to take you anywhere and start looking for things that will. Remember that it’s just a chapter that’s over, not the entire story. Future is uncertain. You’ll have your ups and downs. But believe that after every downs you will get up. Face the world with confidence in your eyes and smile on your lips. Show everyone that nothing can ever break you down completely.
Yes, you’re gonna face bad times. Yes, you’re gonna fall, Yes, you’re gonna get up.

What to expect out of life?

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan. I always hear people say expect the unexpected. And they’re right. Life is about ups and downs. You gain some things and you lose some things. And yes, losing certain things hurt. But sometimes you just have to look past the things you lost and be happy for the things you have. Because that’s what counts.

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Expect the unexpected. And accept that sometimes bad things are going to happen.

 Because:

1. Life is unpredictable.
This is the Very First thing anyone has to stay about life. Though you may have realized it time after time, if you’re still looking for life to get predictable, you’re very well wasting your time. Life never turns out the way we want it to. Accept that it’s always going to be unpredictable. Whether it’s in a good way or a bad way. And in a weird way, that’s the beauty of life.

2. Things change.
They say change is the only thing permanent in life. One of the things guaranteed to happen in life is change. Change isn’t always bad. It’s scary, I’ll admit. But eventually you get used to it and when the next change comes, you don’t wanna let this one go. So always remember that. The place you are now, the things you don’t wanna change, came from change itself. So be positive and look forward for a better future. If you resist change too much, you’ll not be able to enjoy the good parts of it. Take your time. Accept it as soon as possible. Change comes with both good & bad.

3. Things, good or bad, happen for a reason.
The person you are today is because of all the experiences you had till this date – Good AND Bad. So don’t be too bitter about the bad memories and focus on the good ones. All the struggle you had makes it worthwhile when you find your success.

4. There’s going to be some struggle.
All human beings are different. No two person is the same. But if there’s something everyone has in common, it’s struggle. Every single person in this world has to struggle, to face problems, to fight to overcome them. Life is a constant struggle. If it wasn’t, no one would work hard to get to the place they wanna go. Accept that you’re gonna have to face tough times along the way and mentally prepare yourself to be strong. Some get what they want and some don’t. So even when you’re facing a bitter aspect of life, don’t lose hope and never give up. You never know what the next stage holds. And sometimes, when you don’t get what you wanted, you get something even better. So nothing is futile.

5. Occasionally you may have some regrets.
No matter how much you think that you’re not gonna have any regrets, there will come a time when regrets will come creeping. It’s normal to have regrets. But you need to know that they shouldn’t take any place in your head. Too much regrets can make you oblivious to the good things around you while you keep on wondering about the past. The past is over. You cannot change it. So stop living in the past and live in the present. There may be many things you could have done differently. But it’s time to let them go. Have no regrets. Learn from your past so it doesn’t happen in your future.

6. There are gonna be Idiots everywhere
You’re gonna find idiots everywhere. You’re gonna find creepy people everywhere. And you’re gonna find liars everywhere. Good people are very hard to find. The bad people are at every turn. So learn to recognize the good people from all around and when you find them, keep them close. Whether they’re friends or family or neighbours. Could be anyone.

7. Someone somewhere will let you down.
People are gonna let you down once in a while. You will feel betrayed. One thing to note about betrayal is that it can only be done to you by a person very close to you. In such a case, there are two scenarios:

  1. A person did it and it was unavoidable or if he/she didn’t know how to handle the situation, then it’s probably best not to hold any grudge. Sometimes, even we hold very high expectations from friends that they can’t possibly keep up to that level.
  2. The person did it for absolutely no reason whatsoever, and don’t even appear to be sorry, then you need to think of it as a lesson of trusting the wrong person too much and keep your distance.

8. There are going to be some bad times.
Bad times is unavoidable. You’re gonna face pain, and you’re gonna face losing something you care about. It’s okay. At such times all you gotta remember is things are gonna be fine. Maybe now things are not. But eventually they will be fine. You just need to focus on what’s still there and hold on to it. Life isn’t about standing straight. It’s about getting up no matter how many times you fall.

In the end, life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain. Stay strong. Live life to your fullest.